TO FIGHT OR NOT TO FIGHT … THIS IS THE QUESTION

Filed in MUNICIPALITY by on March 1, 2018

4 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T AVOID CONFLICT

There is nothing I love as much as a good fight.

— Franklin D. Roosevelt

 

Even though, on a daily basis, we inevitably face conflicts and in spite of the fact that deliberately avoiding confrontations is the default position of many … there just aren’t any real long-term benefits to avoiding clashes with the other people in our lives.

FACE EVERY ISSUE HEAD-ON … IT WILL HELP YOU MOVE FORWARD

The BIG problem with always staying away from conflict is you could easily miss out on a chance for growth and improvement… And who doesn’t want to grow and improve? Avoiding hostility and acrimony may even prevent you from getting ahead in life … it could quite easily ‘stunt’ your personal and professional growth. Saying nothing when everything in you is screaming for an opportunity to say something … anything, will potentially fill you with unnecessary anxiety and stress. It even has the potential of causing you to be physically sick or depressed or worse. By far the simplest solution is face every issue head on…trust me, EVERYONE will find this to be a much better approach.

IT’S TIME TO SET YOURSELF FREE FROM STRESS

If you are one to always keep your emotions bottled up inside all the time, then you have already experienced the difficulty it can present in your life … perhaps this a good time to SET YOURSELF FREE.  If you can, and you should, you will no doubt find real freedom – be less anxious – have more energy for the important things and as a bonus enjoy life a whole lot more!

IT LEADS TO STRONGER RELATIONSHIPS

When it comes to conflicts there is nothing quite as liberating as meeting them head on – of course, you must always remain respectful and reasonable … this is the path to success when dealing with conflict. A calm, polite and rational approach is very helpful professionally and personally. This is probably one of the best ways I know of to keep difficult situations from getting out of hand… I have a policy of facing challenges head-on … if you take that approach too, I can guarantee that it will, pretty well always, lead you to better communication and stronger relationships.

YOU’LL FIND IT REFRESHING RELIEVING AND REDEEMING

While the reasons can be complex, it is quite often a lack of self-confidence that causes people to stay away from conflict and keep things ‘bottled up’.  It probably goes back millennia – to a “fight or flight” instinct.  Whatever the root cause, a lot of people simply don’t see the point in confrontation asking “what can I do about it anyway” or perhaps “what difference will it really make?” Of course, it is obvious that you won’t really know until you try. My guess is that when do FINALLY ‘face things head on’, you’ll be amazed at how refreshing, relieving and redeeming the experience was.

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT

Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means. Ronald Reagan

Bruce Malcolm

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Bruce's background includes 30+ years of human resource management experience covering all aspects of HR administration with a clear specialty in team building and recruiting. He created and developed the concept of “Ethical Head-Hunting™”. Bruce began his recruiting career in 1971 with Prudential Assurance.

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